Supporting Your Child Through Eating Disorder Recovery

When your child receives a diagnosis of an eating disorder, it can be a challenging and emotional journey for both of you. Here is guidance on what you, as a parent, can do to support your child through their recovery process.

How do you approach a conversation with your child about their eating disorder? It might not be easy, especially if your child becomes withdrawn, touchy, or moody. They may not even accept that they have a problem. Nevertheless, discussing their condition is vital for their recovery, so persistence is key. Even if they seem angry, deep down, they might be feeling scared or insecure. How can you initiate this conversation? It’s essential to remain calm and prepare what you want to say without placing blame or judgment on them. Focus on their feelings, not their appearance. Use “I” statements like, “I’m concerned because you don’t seem happy,” rather than starting with “you.” Avoid discussing diets or weight problems and be patient if they don’t open up immediately. Remember, their secrecy is part of the illness, not a reflection of your relationship with them.

Mealtimes can pose a particular challenge in this journey. Here are some tips to navigate these crucial moments:

If your child is in treatment, consult their treatment team for guidance on handling mealtimes. Collaborate with your child to create meal plans that you both agree on. Make an agreement within the family not to discuss portion sizes, calories, or anything related to the meal. Avoid consuming low-calorie or diet foods in front of them or keeping such items in the house. Strive to keep mealtimes lighthearted and positive, even if you don’t feel that way internally. If your child attempts to take control by getting too involved in meal preparation, gently redirect their efforts, such as asking them to set the table or help with washing up. Don’t focus solely on them during meals; enjoy your own meal and engage in conversation. Following the meal, consider a family activity like playing a game or watching TV to help distract from purging or overexercising. Don’t fret if a meal doesn’t go perfectly; just move forward.

Your child’s treatment team plays a significant role in their recovery, but your love and support are equally important. Here’s how you can support your child:

Educate yourself about eating disorders to better understand the challenges your child is facing. Continuously remind your child that you love them and will always be there for them. Make them aware of the professional help available and encourage activities that don’t involve food, such as hobbies and spending time with friends. Ask your child what you can do to assist them and be open about your own feelings, as this will encourage them to do the same. Be a positive role model by maintaining a balanced diet and a healthy level of exercise. Work on building their confidence by praising them for considerate actions or congratulating them on their achievements.

For additional support and guidance, don’t hesitate to seek advice from a GP or a health professional within your child’s treatment team on how to provide assistance at home. It’s essential for the entire family to understand the situation and have access to the necessary support.

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